Chasing Chase: Danita has 'mommy guilt'

I've been trying to fight it. I tried denying it. But let's just put it out on the table and deal with it. I am currently enrolled in Mommy Guilt 101. 

There just never seems to be enough time in the day for me to wear the many hats that have my name on it.

Since I work the night shift, I only see Chase in the morning hours during the week. Then it's off to daycare to learn and have fun with his toddler pals. The next time I see him it will be a new day and I would have missed lunch, dinner and bedtime with my little boy. There is comfort in knowing that I am not alone because there are many mothers out there just like me, who work a full-time job and raise a family. I get that. But here's my question to my fellow "Mommy Guilt-ers". How do you begin to feel better about the situation? What steps do you take to come out of the guilt zone?

Issue number two is my shopping addiction for my son. I can't seem to go into any department store without buying Chase something. Not because he needs it necessarily. It's just because I enjoy buying him new clothes and shoes. Even if I go into Walmart for toilet tissue, I will leave the store with several sets of Garanimals and some TP. I've been confronted by those who are close to me to stop this behavior, but it hasn't worked. I love shopping for Chase. I can't help it.

And my last issue has a name: GiGi. Chase's maternal grandmother and yes, my mother. I think she has a case of Chase-itis. My mother likes to have Chase at her house every other weekend. If it doesn't happen that way, I hear it big time. Recently, Chase wasn't available on her scheduled weekend because he was spending time with members of our extended family.

Why did I do that? She informed me that she doesn't have a problem with Chase being there, but I am not to allow this again when it is" her" weekend. She told me to do it when it's "my" weekend. In a very puzzled tone of voice, I said to her I wasn't aware that as his mother I had an assigned weekend with my child. Silly me. This is Gigi I'm talking to and I should have known what her response would be.

She told me that I had upset the rhythm of their bi-monthly weekend sleepovers by having him miss his normally scheduled time. This is real folks, I can't make this up. So, far be it from me to mess up Chase and Gigi's rhythm, and I told her it wouldn't happen it again. Gigi has spoken. So let it be written. So let it be done.

Yes, I have issues. I am centered about it. But if you have any advice you want to give me on any of them, don't hesitate to email me at dharris@newsnet5.com .  Until next time.

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